my apology

At various times in our lives, we will do something to hurt someone else, even if it's not intentionally. When we've done something that hurt a friend or someone close to us, we have to make an effort to make things right again.

 How can we say "Sorry" and really mean it? Too often we just say the words "I'm sorry" and expect that to be good enough. It's Not..!

I've done something wrong n i've never felt this bad before.. well..i've put my best effort to apologize n show to her (a friend) how sorry i am.. if we did anything wrong we wouldn't want any one to know it n we'll try our best to keep it save with us..that's what i'm trying to do now. n i really hope she was doing the same thing.

There are some very good step which i've found n would like to share to all readers n for us all to take so that a truly heartfelt apology can be effective and then resolved the conflict. Here's how...

ADMIT YOU WERE WRONG - The first, and most important is to admit that you have done something wrong. To say you are sorry and not admit wrongdoing is empty and the injured party will not believe you. Furthermore, they will not trust that there will be any change in your behavior in the future, since you refuse to accept responsibility for the present.

ACKNOWLEDGE THE DAMAGE DONE - acknowledge the injury you have caused the other person(s). Have you hurt their feelings, damaged property, caused them some difficulty? Be specific and tell them that you know what did to them. Tell them that you understand why they are upset and that you know how your actions makes them feel.

 

ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES - Accept complete responsibility for what you did as well as the consequences. Take your lumps and learn from them. Don't try to turn it around at this point and jab them for their part in the problem (if any) or try to get the to say they're sorry. This is about YOU and YOUR actions, not theirs.

 

ASK FOR FORGIVENESS - Ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting. That is something that few people can truly do. It means, "I give up my right to hurt you back or hold this over you in the future".

 

ALTER FUTURE BEHAVIOR - Assure them that you will make the proper alterations to your actions or character in the future that should keep this problem from happening again. Words with no action are pretty meaningless. If you commit to change, and the other person sees you change, you can rebuild trust and repair your relationship.

here-a bunch of flowers for all my love one.

No-one enjoys being wrong but we sometimes do things that hurt the ones we love and often the people we cannot stand. Whether the dispensed hurt was intentional or not, an apology is warranted. By the way, whether you like the person or not-they too deserve an apology....No they are not exempt...

 

well.., i make a mistakes n i'm sorry.. truly i am.. T_T